Dear readers,
Nowadays, we tend to shift everything that required us to do something or go somewhere into the online world of the internet. If you want to travel, you can book your flight, hotel etc. online, and you don't even need to go to the travel agent in order to book anything. The advantage is of course, that you can do everything yourself from the comfort of your own home, but sometimes you have no idea who sold you the trip, or who organised it for you. Same goes for books, clothes and basically all other products since Amazon's got you covered with basically everything. With the introduction of social media, we got a new handy tool for staying in touch with people. Our friends can be as far as we want and we will still have the option to message them for free, we are connected unlike ever before. Don't think that I am one of those who thinks that social media is making us anti-social, because I believe that it depends on the person if he/she uses social media so much, that it makes the person anti-social, in which case social media is not to blame, but the person who's misusing it. I mean, if a person is addicted to heroin, who would you blame? The addict or the substance? Think about it.
As activities such as shopping have moved online, so has dating also found it's way on the internet, with online-dating sites warming up the field, and then speed-dating apps (Tinder and co.) just taking over everything that we knew as dating and re-defining it in the modern era. Today you don't even have to leave the house to meet someone, you can just swipe right and hope to get the opportunity to talk. Some sites try to be more accurate by letting you create a more specific profile, I personally think these have the highest success potential in terms of actually finding something serious. In the end, it always depends on the person. There are different reasons for joining online-dating sites. For me personally it's just for the experience and then to see what may be, but others have different motives and that's fine as well. You might not find love nowadays, but finding sex has become so much easier. I would say that cheating has also become easier, but then again, if someone wants to cheat, they will do it, whether it's easy or not, because the intention is there.
As of now, I can't really say if online dating is really a good or a bad thing, and I think that one can't really properly just because nowadays everyone is on these sites, and no one uses real life meeting anymore. It's becoming increasingly difficult to date outside of the internet because our lifestyle has changed. Young people go out less, the number of social contacts a person has been steadily decreasing, and especially in developed countries, careers are put first. Society is focusing on cutting time wherever possible, and a result people are taking dating with them like everything else on a smartphone, so you only go out with people you think you're compatible with. It's a messed up system, but as it seems that's how it works.
The thing that bothers me the most about online dating is that some of the guys I've met online have lost all sense of manner. I have never been judged so quickly by a person in real life like I have been judged by people online. Since I don't have muscles, and since I don't like my body, I don't take off my shirt for pictures, and I refuse to do so, but apparently my body has become an important issue for most guys out there who want to date me. Looks have never mattered so much and if you don't nail that first online impression, you're screwed. We might be stuck with online-dating, yet we can rid ourselves of idiots who believe that they behave how they want to get what they want. After all, we are all human.
Having said all this, I hope that you can agree with some of the things I said, feel free to leave your opinion in the comments and until next time.
Sincerely Yours, Stefan.
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Saturday, 18 July 2015
Pride
Dear readers,
Due to the recent events in the USA, regarding the legalisation of gay marriage, I wanted to write a statement on the LGBTQ+ population and its situation around the world. I myself am gay, and wanted to say a few words about this topic, because I feel like there's a few things, that is not being properly said. Personally, I am happy for all US gays and their opportunity to get legally married, in the entire country, in each and every state. I am also happy for all the gays in the world, who live in countries, which have legalised gay marriage (France, the UK, Spain, Slovenia etc.) as well as for all gays in countries where the reigstered partnership is legal (Germany, the Czech Republic, Croatia etc.) and for all the gays in the world, who have an easy life, where they don't have to struggle as much with their sexuality.
I recently dated a guy with the perfect setting for his homosexuality. He grew up in a city, where it is completely normal to be gay, and where no one bats an eye if you hold hands with a person of the same, or the opposite sex. Often he would not understand, just how much I struggle with my sexuality on a daily basis, because even though I grew up in Prague and went to a German School with more than 40 nationalities reprensented, I still originate from Serbia, which is really conservative about the topic of homosexuality. I do not define that struggle as something that gets me discriminated on a daily basis, through verbal abuse or something similar. I more define it as a the struggle to find acceptance in a society, which doesn't grant it to me. And I can understand them, I can completely understand homophobia and the reasons, why people have something against the LGBTQ+ population. It's weird to some social standard, and as long as no one tries to educate societies on their own issues, those socieites are not going to change.
My first travel post on this blog was about Moscow and that was for a reason. I love Russia, and I am fascinated by that country. I wanted to get to know the city, the politics, the people, and understand them, and not judge them. I feel like, if one does not judge, one will not be judged. Most people who hate a specific group, don't even have a reason for it, but are instead tought into it by their parents. In each society there is one unpopular group that is being hated. Whilst in Western Europe, most people accept the LGBTQ+ society, they don't accept Islam, whilst in Islamic countries, they accept other religions, but don't accept the LGBTQ+ society. Whilst in Russia, gays get beaten up at times, in my country (Serbia) and my other country (Croatia) national tensions against each other are building up again. There will always be hate around the world, and for it to stop we must set an example. How can the LGBTQ+ society ever be accepted, if we keep on discriminating those, who discriminate us? We're going in circles over here.
In my life, I have managed to explain to people that alternative sexual orientations are normal and are something that one is born with. Since I move around all kind of societies in the world, especially ones that are not always tolerant, I've learned how to talk to people in a way, that makes them understand that my sexuality, does not offend their beliefs and cultural values. It's difficult to tackle the topic and speak to people about it, and many gay guys I know lose their nerves fairly easily when confronted with homophobia, whilst the key to peace is diplomacy (if used correctly, and if it's not corrupted like most politicians, but that's a story for another time) and understanding. We live in a diverse world, so whilst we promote diversity, we should embrace it, instead of rank it.
Think about it, Stefan
Due to the recent events in the USA, regarding the legalisation of gay marriage, I wanted to write a statement on the LGBTQ+ population and its situation around the world. I myself am gay, and wanted to say a few words about this topic, because I feel like there's a few things, that is not being properly said. Personally, I am happy for all US gays and their opportunity to get legally married, in the entire country, in each and every state. I am also happy for all the gays in the world, who live in countries, which have legalised gay marriage (France, the UK, Spain, Slovenia etc.) as well as for all gays in countries where the reigstered partnership is legal (Germany, the Czech Republic, Croatia etc.) and for all the gays in the world, who have an easy life, where they don't have to struggle as much with their sexuality.
I recently dated a guy with the perfect setting for his homosexuality. He grew up in a city, where it is completely normal to be gay, and where no one bats an eye if you hold hands with a person of the same, or the opposite sex. Often he would not understand, just how much I struggle with my sexuality on a daily basis, because even though I grew up in Prague and went to a German School with more than 40 nationalities reprensented, I still originate from Serbia, which is really conservative about the topic of homosexuality. I do not define that struggle as something that gets me discriminated on a daily basis, through verbal abuse or something similar. I more define it as a the struggle to find acceptance in a society, which doesn't grant it to me. And I can understand them, I can completely understand homophobia and the reasons, why people have something against the LGBTQ+ population. It's weird to some social standard, and as long as no one tries to educate societies on their own issues, those socieites are not going to change.
My first travel post on this blog was about Moscow and that was for a reason. I love Russia, and I am fascinated by that country. I wanted to get to know the city, the politics, the people, and understand them, and not judge them. I feel like, if one does not judge, one will not be judged. Most people who hate a specific group, don't even have a reason for it, but are instead tought into it by their parents. In each society there is one unpopular group that is being hated. Whilst in Western Europe, most people accept the LGBTQ+ society, they don't accept Islam, whilst in Islamic countries, they accept other religions, but don't accept the LGBTQ+ society. Whilst in Russia, gays get beaten up at times, in my country (Serbia) and my other country (Croatia) national tensions against each other are building up again. There will always be hate around the world, and for it to stop we must set an example. How can the LGBTQ+ society ever be accepted, if we keep on discriminating those, who discriminate us? We're going in circles over here.
In my life, I have managed to explain to people that alternative sexual orientations are normal and are something that one is born with. Since I move around all kind of societies in the world, especially ones that are not always tolerant, I've learned how to talk to people in a way, that makes them understand that my sexuality, does not offend their beliefs and cultural values. It's difficult to tackle the topic and speak to people about it, and many gay guys I know lose their nerves fairly easily when confronted with homophobia, whilst the key to peace is diplomacy (if used correctly, and if it's not corrupted like most politicians, but that's a story for another time) and understanding. We live in a diverse world, so whilst we promote diversity, we should embrace it, instead of rank it.
Think about it, Stefan
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